Sexuality discussed...

- Never Stop Dreaming -

Apart from the previous entry that slams a single isolated incident in Japan, here's another one that actually tells a different tale on Japan.

As we all know that when it comes to taboo subjects like pornography, prostitution, vices, drugs, etc. Singapore would not hesitate to take action against any potential offenders even if it means using the noose. Hey...but if you'd actually take a step back, travel around more and understand the modern world that we live in, you would then begin to understand why a country's poison would be another country's medicine. Why certain bans are in place and how others are a complete joke.

Here's what I found out so far, In U.S.A. and in Japan, prostitution are illegal while pornography are pretty much legal. Whereas in some countries (you know where I am talking about...), the opposite happens. Why this is so I leave that to you to google it but let's do a fair comparision here.

Prostitution

- Government can tax it like any other legitimate business if it's legalised.
- Lucrative business that rakes in income from non core activities.
- Can be excluded from annual balance sheet or categorize under "Non Core Business".
- Enforce new laws so that prostitutes need medical check ups.
- Mandatory check ups increases revenue.
- More budget needed for medical research or services due to STDs spreading.
- Increase tax and increase revenue.
- Gross Domestic Product increases (In other words, my country makes money).

Pornography

- Bad for children but doesn't spread dieseases.
- Promotes overseas websites or publications.
- Other countries makes money (Bad for domestic economy).
- Static and non mobile.
- Does not rakes in more money than Prostitution.
- Waste time sourcing, printing, delivering, etc.
- Doesn't have sub categories to tap extra revenue like medical.
- No new or mandatory laws to make more money.

Well these are just my uncomplete 5 minute summary so what do you say? Sensing the big picture here...?

Okay that aside, in Japanese schools, Adult Magazines and other "Filth" that we have been taught to avoid discussing when we were young are actually being openly discussed. With both males and females, teachers and students, such subjects are actually being discussed like a normal off the record conversation. There is are no lines drawn and there are no boundaries defined, yet no one feels uncomfortable about it and no one actually crosses any self-imposed invisible lines. Everyone simply chatted like everyday's news during lunch and it ended with everyone else knowing a little more about everyone else. Seems pretty fun but for me, I simply eavesdropped like a sinister Mr. Devil pretending that I did not understood Japanese. *Evil Grin*

These kids were like 13 or 14 and yet they had so much leeway to growing up and to understand that it's perfectly normal to have fetishes and desires. Biology lessons in Science classes back then were stoic, solemn and uneventful. Everyone was so serious and intense in class and I do believe that many of us actually went on to experience our escapades dangerously elsewhere. It was a dark secret that only our friends knew. Innocent faces in classes were probably the real devils outside school while the devils in school were actually angels outside. Tattoos, cigarettes, liquor and fights seldom brought home babies before marriages while books, pens and straight Aces in the exams actually were the ones who did so. How ironic...

I felt that this is a relatively healthy environment to grow up in and especially teachers can behave like a senior figure, a friend or even a mentor and can discussed taboo subjects like this. Well as long as it's not suppressed, it will not go underground and it can be monitored. While underground issues are ambiguous and difficult to accurately measure, issues on the surface are easier to track and measures can be put in place fairly easily.

As much as a society seems so advanced and top notch among others, basic intricate networks like this that maps people together are lacking. I was a kid once and I believe that everyone out there was a kid once too...so who did you turn to when you had problems? Got into a fight? Did some outrages and beyond description things?

I believed that most of us turned to our friends instead of our parents, teachers, etc. Because the adults never listened and they were always right. Their words were excerpts from the bible, their rules were like scripts from sutras and we were nothing more than just a son or daughter in their eyes. We were never recognised as an individual who possess our own thoughts, beliefs or choices. So our darkest little secrets will always be with our friends and the adults were always the last ones to find out some disastrous events.

My point is that like investment, putting all your eggs in one basket is risky so have a few different roles or personality at your disposal. If being the role of an adult is not appropriate, then take the role of a friend. If being the role of a boyfriend is not appropriate, then again take the role of a friend or brother or something that is appropriate. Approach a tacky situation with the most appropriate role and you will find that solving it isn't really that hard. Afterall everybody needs someone to listen once in a while.

Alrite...everyday is a learning experience because I learnt something new again today.